As I approach my return to work after being off on maternity leave for 9 weeks, I have realized that although I’m ready to get back into my normal routine with my newborn now included in it, making it my “new normal”, I am also feeling really rusty on how to go about daily life as working mom.
This isn’t my first rodeo. I also have a daughter who is almost 3. I had to do this very thing back when she was an infant. Somehow I got back into the swing of things and life resumed, although altered to accommodate the brand new person I’d added to it. We figured each other out, developed a groove and grew with each other and our family.
This time around, I feel more nervous than the first time, however.
Not only am I working a completely different job, but I am also going to be trying to get to work on time after the middle of the night feedings with my infant and an unpredictable 3-year-old on top of it. While my 3-year-old does sleep through the night, she still has her moments where she’ll call out to me to help her use the potty or to get her a drink of water. I’ll have to wake up earlier, try to get myself ready for the day and out the door by a certain time so that I’m not late, which is easy enough, but it’s easier said than done with two small children who will also need things in that minuscule time frame I’ll have each weekday morning. My husband will be home to help, as he was the first time around, but now my 3-year-old also has to be up and ready for preschool. We all have places to go and people to see, with a ticking clock ever present in the background, not letting us forget it’s there.
After work I’ll need to adjust to making dinner, taking care of the house and doing bedtime routines by myself for the most part, due to my husband’s work schedule being opposite mine. It’s daunting and when I try to project into the future and envision how things will be with my new baby added to it, I see myself as a “mombie”, going through the motions like a sleep-deprived robot.
If you haven’t figured it out yet, I’m nervous about doing this all over again. What I’d love to get out of this post is (obviously) not to GIVE tips, but to RECEIVE them from all you working moms out there who have some words of wisdom you may want to share. Give me bullet points. Give me a top 5 list of best practices. Give me anything that helped you when you had to do this all over again. How did you cope? How did you get back to normal? How did you find yourself again?
I appreciate anything I can get and I’m excited to read your offerings. Thank you so much in advance!