Do you plan to make a New Years Resolution? I have gone both ways with resolutions and gone without. I have had years where I have very specific goals and I think very strategically for how I’m going to reach those goals. Some years, I have been successful. Some years, I have gone with the flow.
Goal-setting can be very effective if the right steps are taken. Goals, in and of themselves, aren’t sustainable. They tell you where you want to go, not how you’re going to get there. Setting goals alone isn’t going to change anything unless those goals lead to action. So, when making resolutions, consider if you are ready to really take action.
New Years Resolutions vary tremendously and may be easy to implement and monitor. One of the most common New Years Resolutions is to lose weight which is easily measurable by a scale. Another New Years Resolution may be to save money or pay off a debt which is easily measurable by the bank account or the decrease in the debt.
Its ok to go without New Years Resolutions but maybe other goals. Some of us have goals that we constantly work on and may have been set in July. Some of us have resolutions which ebb and flow as needed.
What about those of us who don’t really have goals or worthwhile resolutions?!?! We live in a society which values ambition and striving to do better. Is it ok to not have ‘real’ resolutions nor goals?
My life currently revolves around my preschooler and toddler. I’m blessed to work very part-time hours so I spend a lot of time with my little guys. I love how I spend my days. I love the energy my boys have. I love their naive attitudes and imaginations.
I have New Years Resolutions and they are very real and absolutely valid for me, although they may not be measurable on a chart, scale nor bank account.
- Live life! I want to remember to enjoy every moment with my little guys. I want to focus on the NOW, not yesterday and not tomorrow.
- Role model the values I want my boys to show! I want my boys to demonstrate confidence but also patience, acceptance and generosity. I want my boys to be honest and articulate. I want my boys to genuinely care for friends. I want to be deliberate in my actions to model values.
- Strive for Balance! This is a challenge for every Mom including me but its sooo important. My life revolves around my boys but I also need to create more opportunities to spend quality time with my husband. Equally as important, I need to make time for myself. To read another Mom’s thoughts on the struggle for balance, read here.