I’ll be the first to admit, sometimes I fall victim to the thinking that I need to be Super Mom all of the time.
That my kids need to be entertained all the time, that I need to have a delicious (and nutritious) dinner prepared each night and that laundry needs to be washed, folded and put away all in the same day (now we’re just getting out of hand.) That’s a lot of pressure, isn’t it?
I’m here to release you from that pressure, Super Mom wannabe…sometimes being “just okay” is enough.
In fact, it’s more than enough.
Now listen, this revelation didn’t just come to me overnight. It took getting pregnant with my third child to realize this. As a mom of a 3 year old boy and a 1 year old boy who are active and needy, throwing in the first trimester of pregnancy was enough to throw us off, well a lot.
I wasn’t entertaining my kids…I was allowing them to entertain themselves (ok, so Curious George helped too.) I was definitely not making delicious and nutritious meals…I was calling my husband at 5:01 making sure he knew the closest Chipotle location. And I was for sure not washing laundry, let alone folding it and putting it away. My poor husband was wearing the same socks for days (he seemed to forget where the washer was located.)
I started to feel bad about myself and my mothering. Thoughts like “I should be on top of this motherhood thing all the time!” and “so and so is providing a hot meal for her family tonight” popped into my mind. Negative self talk was making me feel less than the superstar mom that I know I am. So what if I was going through a period of being a so-so mom? I rock at this mom thing (disclaimer: this is my own opinion and not my kids’) the other 85% of the time.
So mama, I’m here to encourage you to get over that negative self talk
(or at least let you know you aren’t alone.) And here is why:
It’s okay if your kids are still in pajamas at 4:00pm. It creates less laundry.
It’s okay if the cashier at Chipotle knows you by your first name. It probably tastes better than that Pinterest recipe anyway.
It’s okay if it looks like a small tornado ripped through your kitchen. It can be cleaned at bedtime.
It’s okay if you haven’t showered in a few days. It’s better for the environment anyhow.
It’s okay if you send your kids off to play by themselves. It helps build their independence.
It’s okay if you take a nap while your kids are napping. There will always be things that need done, take care of yourself.
So if you are feeling less than the mom you know you are, know this…you are awesome!! We all go through those times when we feel like we are failing or we just positively, absolutely cannot give it our all today, this week or this month. You are allowed to be just okay. You will bounce back to the Super Mom you are, I know it. The perfect house and meals and daily activities really don’t mean anything in the scheme of things. Your kids are loved, and in my opinion, that makes you WAY more than just okay.