The holidays can be a magical time for everyone. The holidays are a time to create memories. For many parents, it is a glimpse into the magical innocence of imagination. For many of us, it’s a time to catch up with family who we haven’t seen for awhile.
However, spending time with family can add drama and possibly even stress. We all know the family member who seems to cause drama every holiday. We all know the family member who seems to need to be the center of attention. Or worse, we create the drama for whatever reason… maybe the mama bear came out a little too strongly, or maybe the patience was just worn too thin to respond to the drama creator.
As Moms, many of us feel a sense of responsibility for not only keeping the peace but also ensuring the most magical and joyous holiday for our little ones. This responsibility sometimes requires a balancing act, compromises, and sometimes even sacrifice. During the holidays, Moms have to balance the needs of each child, their family, Dads, and maybe even themselves in there too. Everyone has their own goals and Moms have to figure out how to gracefully meet everyone’s needs.
In order to meet everyone’s needs Moms need to compromise and communicate clearly. Compromise comes when everyone wants something different. Sometimes, other family members have their own ideas for how a particular holiday tradition or activity should go. When the ideas are different, sometimes compromise is necessary. Effective and clear communication will help compromise without argument.
Sometimes compromise just isn’t enough. Most importantly, Moms need to know when enough is enough and that’s ok! Many of us moms beat ourselves up far too easily. If you or your child are not enjoying themselves, it’s ok to say enough is enough. The holidays aren’t meant to be stressful. Moms, give yourself permission to limit time with family. (of course, try compromise first) Give yourself permission to prioritize your and your child’s needs before others. Give yourself permission to enjoy the holidays.
How do you keep everyone happy over the holidays?
